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On this day of memory for those who have given “the last full measure of devotion,” as Abraham Lincoln put it in the Gettsyburg Address, it is more than fitting that we should pause to honor all those who have served in uniform that this great republic might survive.  Every American that has joined our armed forces has willingly written a check in any amount, up to and including their lives, for the benefit of others.  I am proud to have spilled a little ink to that end myself.  And though it was long ago, my devotion to my country and my countrymen is no less strong now than it was then.

In these cynical times, when our Commander In Chief searches for the root causes of “extremism,” rather than recognizing the nature of those that would obliterate us, when he sees our servicemen and women as props for photo ops and pawns for his own aggrandizement, when our own government harasses and harms us, and when the highest officers of our land are thuggishly corrupt, yet imagine themselves the best and the brightest, it may be helpful and uplifting to remember who the best and brightest were, are, and with God’s grace, always will be.  As dark as these times are, there may yet be hope.

One of the most touching documents of the Civil War–of all time–was a letter written by Sullivan Ballou of the Rhode Island Militia.  He died at the age of 32, only a week after writing this letter, at the first battle of Bull Run on July 21, 1861.

July the 14th, 1861

Camp Clark, Washington

My very dear Sarah:

The indications are very strong that we shall move in a few days – perhaps tomorrow. Lest I should not be able to write you again, I feel impelled to write lines that may fall under your eye when I shall be no more.

Our movement may be one of a few days duration and full of pleasure – and it may be one of severe conflict and death to me. Not my will, but thine 0 God, be done. If it is necessary that I should fall on the battlefield for my country, I am ready. I have no misgivings about, or lack of confidence in, the cause in which I am engaged, and my courage does not halt or falter. I know how strongly American Civilization now leans upon the triumph of the Government, and how great a debt we owe to those who went before us through the blood and suffering of the Revolution. And I am willing – perfectly willing – to lay down all my joys in this life, to help maintain this Government, and to pay that debt.

But, my dear wife, when I know that with my own joys I lay down nearly all of yours, and replace them in this life with cares and sorrows – when, after having eaten for long years the bitter fruit of orphanage myself, I must offer it as their only sustenance to my dear little children – is it weak or dishonorable, while the banner of my purpose floats calmly and proudly in the breeze, that my unbounded love for you, my darling wife and children, should struggle in fierce, though useless, contest with my love of country?

I cannot describe to you my feelings on this calm summer night, when two thousand men are sleeping around me, many of them enjoying the last, perhaps, before that of death — and I, suspicious that Death is creeping behind me with his fatal dart, am communing with God, my country, and thee.

I have sought most closely and diligently, and often in my breast, for a wrong motive in thus hazarding the happiness of those I loved and I could not find one. A pure love of my country and of the principles have often advocated before the people and “the name of honor that I love more than I fear death” have called upon me, and I have obeyed.

Sarah, my love for you is deathless, it seems to bind me to you with mighty cables that nothing but Omnipotence could break; and yet my love of Country comes over me like a strong wind and bears me irresistibly on with all these chains to the battlefield.

The memories of the blissful moments I have spent with you come creeping over me, and I feel most gratified to God and to you that I have enjoyed them so long. And hard it is for me to give them up and burn to ashes the hopes of future years, when God willing, we might still have lived and loved together and seen our sons grow up to honorable manhood around us. I have, I know, but few and small claims upon Divine Providence, but something whispers to me – perhaps it is the wafted prayer of my little Edgar — that I shall return to my loved ones unharmed. If I do not, my dear Sarah, never forget how much I love you, and when my last breath escapes me on the battlefield, it will whisper your name.

Forgive my many faults, and the many pains I have caused you. How thoughtless and foolish I have oftentimes been! How gladly would I wash out with my tears every little spot upon your happiness, and struggle with all the misfortune of this world, to shield you and my children from harm. But I cannot. I must watch you from the spirit land and hover near you, while you buffet the storms with your precious little freight, and wait with sad patience till we meet to part no more.

But, O Sarah! If the dead can come back to this earth and flit unseen around those they loved, I shall always be near you; in the garish day and in the darkest night — amidst your happiest scenes and gloomiest hours – always, always; and if there be a soft breeze upon your cheek, it shall be my breath; or the cool air fans your throbbing temple, it shall be my spirit passing by.

Sarah, do not mourn me dead; think I am gone and wait for thee, for we shall meet again.

As for my little boys, they will grow as I have done, and never know a father’s love and care. Little Willie is too young to remember me long, and my blue eyed Edgar will keep my frolics with him among the dimmest memories of his childhood. Sarah, I have unlimited confidence in your maternal care and your development of their characters. Tell my two mothers his and hers I call God’s blessing upon them. O Sarah, I wait for you there! Come to me, and lead thither my children.

Sullivan

The letter was never mailed.  It was found among Ballou’s effects when Governor William Sprague of Rhode Island traveled to Virginia to bring home the remains of his state’s sons who fell in battle.

Sarah was 24 when Ballou died.  She eventually settled in New Jersey and lived there with her son, dying at the age of 80 in 1917.  She never remarried.  Sullivan and Sarah Ballou lie, together, side by side, in Swan Point Cemetery in Providence, RI

May there always be men such as Sullivan Ballou, and women like his Sarah, bound in deathless love, finally forever together.